Toward our Inner Freedom

How could we act concretely in everyday life in order to achieve a state of increasingly freedom? This is a question that I’m sure many of us have in mind almost few time a week, if not everyday. And this drove me to some considerations I hope will be of some value for some others such as are of value for me.

A true freedom depends primarily on the ability of knowing ourselves, our tendencies and desires… and often our desires replaces the needs we have, and our freedom and happiness begin to depend by the degree of  satisfactions we achieve during our daily life. If I wish some attention from a girl who sits near me on the bar chair, and I get it, then I’m satisfied, happy… I feel more free… otherwise, not. This is the way we usually operate.

To understand what the freedom is, we must first understand the difference between the needs and desires- analyzing these two factors is not so simple, but we can outline briefly the following differences: a need is the result of a drive from which we cannot get rid of; there are natural, primary needs, such as the need to eat, drink, sleep, breathe, and so on … this needs are imposed by our nature and don’t harm our inner freedom.

Similarly, there are many secondary needs, not dictated by our natural being, but by the society, from the culture and conditioning in which we live, and these needs affect our whole life, preventing every kind of real freedom.
Just to make an example, we could need to buy some new shoes to fulfill an emotional emptiness, and this is a conditioning-habit given to us from the consumer society in which we live. Or, the compulsive idea that we must at all costs find a mate, because it’s the only way to feel happiness and fulfillment, is another conditioned need who can lead is to a harmful “emotional prison” and who comes from the acquired culture and not from our Being.

The desires,  however, are an expression of our unconditioned nature who wants to “feel” and “recognize” through the direct experimentation melting herself with the world.
So, to need a new car or some shoes just because otherwise we’ll don’t feel realized towards the others, it’s a conditioned need; a desire is when we are really and deeply impressed, excited and attracted by a car who seems to resonate fully to our nature (maybe because it has a determined form or color who attracts our being) , or against an object that seems truly wonderful for us because it affects our qualities and makes us emotionally resonate. A desire doesn’t imply any attachment, it’s a bright and strong driving of our true nature, corresponding to life. So, trough the understanding the difference between our unconditioned desires and social needs, is fundamental to achieve the possibility of developing progressively our freedom.

A free person is really free from any external needs and lives only driven by her desires. Discovering the cruel truth that we are almost totally pervaded by conditioned needs induces us to search what are our real desires and inclinations, and this helps us to get rid of every conditioning.

So, freedom requires a degree of self-knowledge (“Know. Thyself!).
Without self-knowledge, a true freedom is impossible. Being free doesn’t mean doing anything we want, at any cost, indeed the impossibility to say “no” to some drive is a symptom of our inner slavery. Freedom lies on the other side: it is connected with the concepts of Will and Knowledge- moving through our live recognizing and understanding our real needs, free from every kind of external interference, this is freedom! Our Inner Freedom!!

When we ignore and repress a need or a desire because we are driven by our own limitations (conditionings), then we are slaves of conventions.

Observing and studying ourselves; finding through the meditation practice a space of silence who makes us closer to our real and unconditioned nature ; recognizing the opinions and limitations acquired by the society in which we live; developing a Will who could gain some authority over the needs and give us a freedom of choice in according to our conscience and reason; don’t act exclusively for personal egoism- personal, subjective needs… these five points are surely a good training to achieve a better freedom

About mr Sarmoung

Andrea Dandolo je pisac i istražitelj razvoja svijesti i duhovnosti uključen u razotkrivanje drevnih učenja s ciljem olakšavanja unutarnjeg razvoja ljudskih bića. Jedan od načina kojima se time bavi je i kroz blog koji je preveden na engleski, španjolski i od nedavno hrvatski. Od rane mladosti je u svijetu duhovnosti i rada na sebi sudjelujući u radu grupa koje potječu direktno od Gurdjieffa, tj koje su bile vođene od strane samog Gurdjieffa U skladu sa drevnim znanjima, naglašava razvoj svjesnosti kao primarno sredstvo za psihološku transformaciju i duhovnu osvještenost individualaca. Karakteristike sistema koji predlaže su jednostavan jezik i moderni prijevod drevnih učenja kao i njihove praktične primjene u svakodnevnome životu. Njegov blog čitaju ljudi iz svih krajeva svijeta. Samorazvoj je ne religiozni i ne dogmatski put; sastoji se primarno od naprednog dostizanja viših stanja svijesti, p prisustva i konačno od ostvarivanja svoje prave intimne prirode, koja je poznata u mnogim tradicijama pod imenima poput esencija, duša, biće. Kroz takav razvoj individualna osoba ulazi u nove dimenzije svijesti koje mu omogućuju da vidi stvarnost sakrivenu iza iluzija. To mu omogućuje kreiranje osobnosti neovisne i otporne na vanjske situacije i vanjska uvjetovanja. Posljedice takvog razvoja su oštra inteligencija, izvanredni kreativni kapaciteti, ravnoteža i smirenost u svakoj situaciji i stabilno stanje višeg stanja svijesti koje je poznato u drevnim tradicijama pod nazivom “buđenje”.
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9 Responses to Toward our Inner Freedom

  1. andrea,

    am i correct to understand that our desires are conditioned by society to be filled by material things…like a pair of new shoes, or a nice car? or to “find a mate” to be fulfilled? what about love…is that a desire? or a need? not to “search” for any mate, but to have found one (without searching for one) and needing/wanting his love? is that a conditioned thing? is that innate? is “freedom” the point where you are not wanting or desiring love returned? i’m afraid i’m not at the point of giving “unconditional” love…the only condition being that love is mutual. nothing else.


    • mr Sarmoung says:

      Sylvie, speaking about a topic such as Love in an exhaustive manner would require a large treatise…. maybe even then it wouldn’t be enough.
      However, it is possible to describe some key points who everyone could develop and build through it’s own sensitivity. Understanding the nature of love is not a simple thing. Often we misunderstand an unconditioned love with emotions related to our subjective momentary individual needs. For example, even without being some enlightened individuals, we can understand that falling in some relation just because we feel alone is not love. Love also doesn’t arise by the fact if some person is beautiful or not in according to the canons of beauty suggested (better saying dictated) by the trends suggested on the TV shows or fashion shows. That’s obvious, isn’t it?
      Love is something wide and deep. It isn’t susceptible to no limitations even if it manifests himself trough the matter.
      Even if related to a person, when is sincere, sober, unconditioned, it drives us to a conscious expansion who inevitably spills on all what surrounds us.
      Love bring us to a disruptive driving to unity, harmony, protection, comprehension for the other sufferings, to the desire and the fusion in oneness.
      Love is not passion, even if passion is contained in Love- but only an emotive passion is not Love. In a Love relation passion grows with sacredness and without limitations, involving senses, motions and thoughts.
      Maybe it would be better to say that Love is rather a light than an emotion. There is no spiritual love in opposition to a carnal love, nor a love of the spirit contrasted by a material love. Love is or isn’t… there’s only one love.
      If and when we are touched by Love, independently how he arises in ourselves,we perceive a flow able to make grow flowers in a desert… a True Love arises from our Being not for our personality- ego. That’s how we can recognize a True Love…..

      • i can’t speak of unconditional love between humans, because it is only with animals that i feel this with…. i speak specifically of
        human love, involving desires and fulfillment just for the sake of love…without conditions, in a person who is not “needy” of love…
        this “light” of love…when projected toward an object (a person), what happens when the light is not “bounced” back? in other words, not coming to full circle? the love still exists, but no object through which it can be manifested (dante and beatrice). where can one direct this “energy” in order to flow freely, to remain pure, or…if need be, to stop the flow and free oneself from the debilitating effects of unrequited love? i know there are ways…that take much work on oneself…but how about the temporary and immediate action one must take? in this case, i don’t believe it is an example of society’s conditioning. it was a slow process of becoming, and not searched for, in fact, almost “unwelcome”…and i should mention, “unconsummated”, so sex or carnal passion is not a factor.

        andrea, the answer is time…is it not? another example of strength through the forging of a sword? it’s nice to intellectualize and rationalize, but in the end…what of the present…should i just go out and have a few scotches???

        thanks, andrea…any “enlightenment” you can offer is appreciated.


  2. mr Sarmoung says:

    ALL what we are is a social result… willy- nilly we are social products and before hoping some real change, we have to understand and accept this…we think about society only in terms of present society… but the society in which we live has been constructed trough centuries and centuries of conditioning… we have forgot who we are, that’s the problem, and love is related to this… almost half of the topics posted on this blog page speaks about this… there is not an unconditional Love toward the animals and not toward men: Love or is or isn’t- it doesn’t admit exceptions; what we feel as exceptions is the result of our past delusions, and the problem lies in us, not in the others, so we try to fill the loss we perceive with someone else. This is the main problem: to be able to really Love the other (animals, men, stones… there’s no exceptions) we have first to love ourselves… and this means to have respect of ourselves, in despite f the external influences who bombards us every moment; also, love ourselves means to take care of us, to feel us (this is especially a kind of loving self care). There’s no development without the Love toward ourselves. When we achieve such kind of state, there are not more adversities who can harm us: compassion, in the real term of the word!
    Also you asked what about a love”projected toward an object (a person)”, and “what happens when the light is not “bounced” back”. Ponder about this: is this Love? Love is reciprocal, if we say to love someone without any feed- back, then we have been caught by the main sickness present in this society: the need to possess someone. There’s an invented Latin term I love who explains this state: ADESIO VITAE- attachment to Life, and this means what we consider life. This often happens in Love… we obsessively search for an impossible (and often useless) need. This is caused by the emptiness we fill inside….
    Dante, Beatrice and their love were the argument of my final work on the University: what Dante felt is an unconditional Love, but in this case toward knowing, not Beatrice… she never existed really: she was a symbol of Knowing (the gnostic Sophia), the medium between humans and the absolute.The love described there, a love with little “l”, was the drive to understand the things as they are, to reach the final goal, the Universal Love described in his Divine Comedy in the final:
    “Here vigour failed the lofty fantasy:
    But now was turning my desire and will,
    Even as a wheel that equally is moved,
    The Love which moves the sun and the other stars.”

    That’s Love. But, first, we have to learn to really love and appreciate ourselves… without exceptions… a path and a challenge who’s worth to be done… if we need something else than we think we have now.

    So, first loving ourselves, understanding the “Why” of our reactions, becoming comprehensive toward us, so we develop self compassion. Then, we’ll can perceive and understand the others behaviors and reasons of such behaviors. This is the first step to ascend towards true Compassion.

    With Love,


  3. hi andrea,

    it’s interesting that i should use the example of dante and beatrice…as it is what you are expert in….i understand what you are saying…but to love oneself and having compassion…is it linked? i think i have compassion (at least, more than the ordinary person)…but to love oneself…? that is not an automatic thing…to wake up one morning and say”I LOVE MYSELF!”. how can one love something not yet the potential human?
    i think of carl jung’s animus and anima…the male and female in the human psyche…when we have actualized the masculine and feminine within ourselves, then perhaps there would be no need to “possess” another, because we are complete within ourselves…i would think this would be a prerequisite to unconditional love…we become actualized in “stages”…and perhaps feeling the pain of loving another is one of the stages one must experience before going on to the next stage…. i hear many people speaking of Love (especially from the new agers on facebook), and i am a little skeptical about that…am i missing something? i will admit i am only at the middle of maslow’s pyramid…and still trying to climb that steep road…i try not to lie to myself. well, since my last letter, i have reached a type of calmness and acceptance to my emotional turmoil…hopefully it is a sign of “recovery” and a deeper understanding of the “situation”. it is hard to think clearly when the emotional center takes over our whole being…and again, your incites are “right on the button”…and i heed your wisdom, and it encourages me to confront who i really am. thank you, andrea….

    with love,

    • mr Sarmoung says:

      Sylvie, we grow together trough these posts and replies. Of course, there are several degrees of compassion and love, but what is here meant under this name, are the goals of all the personal and spiritual paths: the achievement of an Universal consciousness. That’s the aim: but, to do this we have to develop a higher and less limited- more opened- degree of compassion. Feeling the pain of loving another is necessary, if we could use these situations in a productive way instead of falling in useless pities, then we should learn something (“compassion” covers in himself the word Passion- such as the passion of Christ- and it derives from the Latin word PATIRE- to suffer: the words cover often the answer for many questions). Ponder about this

  4. Cool article! I’ll have to come back when I have more time to post. You’ve been saved.

  5. Wonderful article! I think I will come back day!

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